Successful relationships are made up of two people, both of whom have a clear sense of self. In a family business this can be tricky as each member plays a different role that creates “boundary confusion.”
When you look at a famiy business, where do most conflicts really start? Ultimately they start with the boundary issues. Boundaries separate our thoughts from our feelings, yet they structure relationships. They are as real as a fence or a border. If we ignore them we are in danger of losing the relationship.
So you might ask what can you do to set boundaries and minimize conflict. If you are working in your family business you must be aware of your objectives, in the business and the family and clearly define your role.
If you work with your family and struggle with the problems of your small business, do you bring the problems home at night? Even more difficult can be adhering to boundaries if your place of business is in your home.
We tend to emotionally trespass, but if we are aware we are crossing the line we can remedy the situation by stepping back. We all have a capacity for boundary intelligence and can be exercised when lines are being crossed – whether it’s you doing it or someone else.
Maintaining healthy boundaries can be liberating. You might be aware when someone else trespasses, but may now be aware when you are the one trespassing. Come up with a mutually organized boundary plan — think of it as a business plan for boundaries. It is very effective and will help eliminate many of the ongoing conflicts.
